Online Therapy for Women Over 40 Navigating the Emotional Challenges Midlife Brings
Brooklyn, NY—Based Compassionate Therapist
Because some moments reshape of your life — and require more than getting through them.
Midlife is often framed as a time to thrive—but for many women, it’s a time when everything feels like it’s shifting at once.
Your life isn’t one-dimensional—what you experience in the present is shaped by everything you’ve already lived through: physically, emotionally, and relationally.
If you’re feeling not like yourself, stretched thin, or unsure of how to find your footing again, you’re not alone.
You deserve support that sees the full picture—and helps you feel like yourself again, in a way that’s grounded and authentic.
Even when things seem “fine” on the surface, something deeper can feel unsettled. You may be managing daily responsibilities while inside you’re wondering why you feel more anxious, more reactive, or out of sync with yourself.
What You’re Navigating Isn’t Just “Midlife”
It’s a series of experiences that redefine how you feel and live.
Life Transitions That Can Reshape You
These moments can affect your sense of self, your relationships, and how you understand what comes next.
Relationship or Marital Issues
Whether you’ve voiced it aloud or it lives quietly in your mind, considering separation can weigh heavy with fear, guilt, and uncertainty. You’re trying to sort out what’s no longer working, what you truly need, and how to listen to yourself without judgment.
Divorce
Even if it’s the right decision, divorce can be emotionally consuming. You’re grieving the loss of what was and facing a future that’s unfamiliar. It can reopen doubts about trust, failure, and your ability to start over. You may find yourself processing far more than the end of a marriage.
Caring For A Parent
You’re juggling appointments, decisions, and emotions. Maybe you’re revisiting childhood wounds or old family dynamics as you care for the person who shaped them. You’re trying to stay steady while navigating the emotional complexities that pull you between the present and the past.
Grief
(Loss of a Parent, Family Member, or Friend)
Loss in midlife feels different. You’re not just grieving the person—you’re reflecting on your own life, legacy, and the relationships that shaped you. It can stir memories, regrets, and awareness of your own mortality. You might also face unexpected feelings around unfinished business, strained relationships, or the role that person played in your life.
Health Changes or New Diagnosis
Midlife is often the first time women face more serious health issues—whether their own or those of a partner. A new diagnosis, ongoing symptoms, or new limitations can trigger fear, grief, or reevaluation of how you want to live your life.
Perimenopause & Menopause
Hormonal shifts can also shift your sense of self. Beyond hot flashes, menopause may bring waves of anxiety, irritability, grief, or a sense of feeling invisible. It’s not all in your head—your body, mind, and emotions are asking for care. This transition isn’t just biological—it’s emotional too, and you deserve support that honors the many layers of this phase in your life.
When it feels like it’s just too much
When different pressures and life transitions start to converge, it can feel like too much, and you struggle to continue to look like you have it all together. Anxiety may show up more strongly—self-judgment is taking up more space.
My work helps you understand what’s shaping these responses beneath the surface—not just to cope, but to create meaningful, lasting change.
Together, we’ll work with your nervous system, emotional patterns, and lived experiences so you can feel more grounded, more clear, and more like yourself again.
How I Can Help
Anxiety
When anxiety shows up as overthinking, perfectionism, self-doubt, or constant tension, it’s often a signal that something deeper needs attention. Together, we’ll explore what’s underneath so you can feel more clear, calm, and connected to yourself.
Individual Therapy After Your Affair Has Been Discovered
When your affair has been discovered, you may find yourself trying to understand how you got here, living with the consequences of what happened, and holding complex, often conflicting emotions. This work offers space to explore all of that honestly and thoughtfully.
Emotional Support for Perimenopause and Menopause
Therapy focuses on the emotional and psychological challenges that often intensify during perimenopause and menopause. This work supports anxiety, mood changes, identity shifts, and increased emotional reactivity that can surface during this phase of life.
How Can My Approach to Psychotherapy Help You?
In our work, you can experience meaningful shifts like these:
Gain Clarity and Resilience by Understanding Your Story
Uncover how past experiences may be shaping your present. When you see the full picture more clearly, overthinking calms—and decisions feel more grounded.
Quiet Your Inner Critic and Move Through Life with
More Self-compassion
Build self-compassion, calm internal pressure, and begin responding to life’s demands with more confidence and self-trust.
Feel “Good Enough” in a Life That Feels Like Yours
Feel more at home in yourself and more in tune with what truly matters—not just what’s expected of you.
I specialize in working with women over 40 who are feeling like:
Even when the day goes smoothly, something still feels off. There’s an undercurrent—worry, frustration, or sadness—just enough to make it hard to settle.
You’ve spent years keeping things going—but lately, it’s taking more out of you. You’re meeting your responsibilities, but it’s starting to wear on your energy, your focus, and your sense of self.
You find yourself reflecting more than before. Noticing things you brushed off in the past, questioning what you’ve accepted, and feeling more sensitive to what no longer feels okay.
You know you need a change—but it’s hard to know where to start. The idea of pausing feels risky. But so does continuing to push through the way you have been.
You’re craving something steadier. Not perfection—but a life that feels like it fits you more fully. Where you don’t have to work so hard to feel at peace with yourself.
If you recognize yourself in these experiences, you’re not alone.
These struggles are more common than they seem—and they’re not just in your head.
They’re a signal that something deeper needs care.
Let’s explore what that is—and how therapy can help.
Carol Covelli, LCSW
The Deeper Work That Helps You Feel Like Yourself
The work I do as a mental health professional is grounded in understanding your unique story and the emotional experiences that have shaped you.
I use depth-oriented approaches like Brainspotting, parts work, EMDR, and therapy intensives to explore what’s happening beneath the surface—especially the patterns, beliefs, and emotional responses that no longer feel supportive. This work isn’t about quick strategies to fix yourself; it’s about developing greater self-compassion, self-trust, and a more settled relationship with yourself.
Together, we’ll gently explore the thoughts, emotions, and experiences that have been influencing how you see yourself and move through the world, so you can feel clearer, more grounded in your day-to-day life, and better able to meet challenges with intention and steadiness.
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Frequently Asked Questions
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I am a licensed mental health professional focused on providing mental health care to individual women in midlife struggling with anxiety, stress, perfectionism, and life transitions who need to feel safe and supported. My approach integrates Brainspotting, EMDR, and mindfulness techniques to uncover and address deeper emotional challenges.
I also offer Brainspotting therapy intensives for clients seeking focused, transformative progress on a specific issue or challenge.
These specialized counseling services allow me to work deeply and collaboratively with my clients, tailoring each session to your individual needs and goals.
Whether you’re seeking emotional support for unresolved trauma, overthinking, or navigating big life changes, my counseling and therapy practice is designed to provide the mental health support and coping strategies you need for improved well-being.
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Brainspotting is a powerful therapeutic modality that helps identify and process deep-seated emotional experiences that may be contributing to anxiety, stress, and other challenges in a safe environment. By attuning to your body and brain’s natural ability to heal, Brainspotting allows you to release unresolved emotions and achieve clarity, calm, and personal growth.
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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based therapy often used to help clients process trauma and negative thought patterns. If you feel stuck in cycles of overthinking, self-doubt, or unresolved emotional pain, this therapeutic approach may help you gain clarity and move forward with confidence.
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While I don't offer in-person therapy, for clients in New York, New Jersey, and Florida, I offer online therapy through a secure telehealth platform. Online therapy sessions allow me to help clients access therapy and learn the coping skills they need to overcome their mental health struggles from the comfort and privacy of their home.
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I currently work with clients on an out-of-network basis. However, I’m happy to provide you with a superbill that you can submit to your insurance provider for potential reimbursement. Please check with your insurance plan to see if they cover out-of-network services.
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No, I do not currently offer couples counseling or group therapy.